The “Want” Complex 

“Just Because you want something, it doesn’t necessarily mean it deserves you.” – Unknown.

Let me explain. The English dictionary describes the word want as “the desire to possess or have something.” My favorite part from this description is “the desire to possess.” That is the one thing people usually relate to, the desire to possess, desire to have, to attain, to control. But the truth is that, that which you eventually possess, possesses you. That which you want doesn’t always want you, but that which you possess, that which you want and eventually get , regardless of whether it wants you or not, once possessed will to a given extent have control over you. Who am I kidding, it has power over you from the moment it crosses your mind, the moment it becomes a thought, slowly it begins to consume you, because all of a sudden you can’t really see your life without it. How you lived before it totally eludes you because for some benign reason your recent past without that want is the illusion and the now, with the want is the reality. Utter lunacy if you ask me, but that’s just human nature.

The desire to possess something, the wanting of something, that act alone is you giving up power. Yes, your need to possess that which you want, gives that which you want power over you even before you possess it. You literally fashion your entire life around that it, how is that not a surrender of power? Then i came across this quote recently “Just Because you want something, it doesn’t necessarily mean it deserves you.” It changed my entire perspective on this complex. I have to admit that’s the one end I never considered until some time recently. You know the end that we all never think about. You know you never consider you, what you bring to the table. Whether what you want is truly deserving of your solemn gift of control over you.Being human the point is you must have that which you want. You will have it come rain or sunshine. But then you do attain it eventually and now you are left with the enigma of what do I do with it. Where in my life do I place it, where does it fit and can it fit, confused simply because you made a long term decision over a fleeting short term whim.

Learn your value, secondly learn to discern who deserves that value. Not everything or everyone you crave can have you. I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me, especially when i understand the fact that i deserve so much more. Other than that it frees up so much more time to focus on you, to chase your worthwhile dreams and achieve them.

Kukie

“I want you, you need me, If you cant see that, you’re not worth the task.”

MN

 

5 comments

  1. “I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me, especially when i understand the fact that i deserve so much more.”

    Another Must read. Blown Away.

    However, you rightly write that one should “learn to discern who deserves that value,” how does one do that? Coz won’t the act of wanting cloud that discernment of the deservedness or can you see through the biasness with which the want impairs your vision?

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