I am a sucker for happy endings, because they leave me at peace with not a qualm in the world. The movie industry is built on happy endings, it’s comforting to know that everything is as it should be. “And they lived happily ever after,” probably my most desired sentence in any tale. Simply because it gives you the illusion that nothing can ever alter that happy end, it will remain as it is for eternity. It’s this illusion that made me dislike tragedies ,especially Shakespeare’s tragedies. Imagine two people falling in love and eventually dying just because they wanted to be together. Romeo and Juliet puts a very cynical twist on a “happily ever after.” It opens your eyes and shows you that things will not always be as you want them to be, or end as you would like them to end. Therefore all things must come to an end, the why and how is the mystery.
Change, I like to believe everyone is afraid of it as much as i am. As humans we like it when things are constant, not shifting at all, hence we want situations to remain in their state forever without any alterations, because we found our sweet spot. We find our balance and we do everything by all means to never change it. But as hard as we may try, something always comes by, rocking our world, uprooting everything, putting an end to the balance we know. We never go down without a fight though, even when we see that it’s all gone, collapsed and there is need for a new balance. We do what we do best, we pick up the pieces, tape them up and continue living like nothing happened until the balance crumbles again. We are so afraid of new beginnings, like the plague. Fear of the unknown, we can’t see it, hence it’s not good, simply because we cannot control or change it. We need to learn that endings are just the start of beginnings, they bring with them loads of experiences some bitter some sweet but all important. Instead of holding onto things long gone, face and embrace what is coming for you, because no matter how hard you try to avoid it, it’s still coming for you.
All things change, the only constant thing is time. In growing as a person everyday I find that change is vital to a fulfilling life. When things are evolving it’s an assurance that you’re living and not just simply existing. Find your comfort in endings (bitter or sweet) so you can find your comfort in beginnings. Making peace with an end, is you giving way to much bigger and greater beginnings.
“Everything that has a beginning has an ending, make your peace with that and all will be well.”
“Change does not change tradition, it strengthens it. Change is a challenge and an opportunity not a threat.”
King Phillip of England.