Point comes in woman’s life when everybody and I mean everybody feels the need to tell you what to do with your life. Everyone, out of the blue just seems to have an opinion. Settle down, get married, clock is ticking, isn’t he handsome, I have someone I want you to meet, if you haven’t heard any of these, well then you’re luckier than the rest of us ( or the moment is still on its way). So social convention dictates that you either marry quickly and be happy or be sad and alone. You don’t want to be the strange crazy lady with no one but her cats to keep her company, and from then,the theory becomes a point of referral. Cats are very affectionate animals, they will always respond to any warmth shown to them. If you ask me the “crazy cat lady” is doing it right, giving affection to an animal that you know for sure will give it back, you can never have that sort of certainty with a fellow human being, so the rest of us must be the crazy ones.
There is a preconceived idea among young women today (probably passed on by the old) that marriage is the only sure way to have some of the most vital things in life, happiness , respect, love etc. This could be true, but it could also be true that it’s a sure way of losing all these things and more, it all depends on perspective and nothing else. Looking at it from a chemistry point of view, when you’re given various chemical elements and one constant, water. Take one element and mix it with the constant, the reaction and result it will give, will in no way be the same with the next element because the composition of the two elements are totally different. So fact is no one can tell you that being married or taking the lone route will make you either miserable or happy, because their experience, cannot in any way determine the outcome of yours.
I am not in any way saying marriage isn’t a good thing or being a “crazy cat lady” isn’t either, all I’m saying is, be brave enough to discover which it is you want on your own, at your own pace and on your own terms. Social convention doesn’t get to wake up and live with your decisions every morning, you do…….
“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you’re happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.”
To be happy you must be your own sunshine
C. E. Jenningham